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Passion can be introverted
What does passion mean to you? What are the traits and behaviors that you associate with it? Might it include the performance of extroversion? The opposite may be worth noticing. Here are 6 ways we can spot introverted passion.
Is success A or B?
How do you define a successful life? A or B? The results of this study will surprise you, as it reveals a collective illusion we think we want but don't actually want.
Unspoken expectations
I used to think that if I had to use words to explain my musical intentions, I was a bad conductor. But I've learned that unspoken expectations can lead to premeditated resentments.
Are we ready to be coached?
I've long been frustrated with one thing: it seems like all except for those in music are avidly resonating with and affirming my work. Then one comment changed my mind: Sounds like your industry is not ready to be coached. I muse on what that means.
The culture of meritocracy
David Brooks has a powerful message on the culture of meritocracy that applies directly to musicians. Instead of the lies of meritocracy, he urges us to focus on three "traits of humanity" - hunger, ability to work in teams, and character.
On the side of right
Nobody thinks they're on the side of wrong. Everyone believes they're on the side of right. Being aware of this can allow people to simply be heard - and help us manage conflict better.
Do we have an attitude problem?
When we want to make a change, it's often our attitude that holds us back. I explore what it means to have an attitude problem.
Why we don't stop talking
We sometimes find ourselves talking more than we need to. Psychologist Mark Goulston shares the 3 stages of talking, why we progress through them, and one trick to over come it.
Who is my customer?
Who are my "customers" as a conductor? The musicians, and not the audience. Here are 3 ways I think about this.
Influence instead of tell
The top-down leadership structure often results in a dynamic where the leader tells people what to do and the people do what they’re told. What if we reframe the “telling” with “influencing”? Here's what I mean.
How our environment leads to burnout
The solution to burnout is not to fix the person experiencing it. It is to fix the system and environment that's causing the burnout. Here are 5 ways to start.
Strike when the iron is cold
"Strike when the iron is cold" means making decisions and setting goals when you're calm and clear-headed. I share an example from my life.
Why we need variety
Ever feel restless in your career? You're not alone. This experience can be because of "habituation." To combat this, we can embrace "dishabituation" by adding variety to our routines.
Other forms of enthusiasm
Boisterous never felt right for me. Nor did it work. I never considered how we may already be abundant with enthusiasm - we just show it in other ways.
The rejection that made me feel so good
Among hundreds of rejections I've received, I share the one that made me feel so good.
Rewarding dissent
It’s important to reward what we value in our workplaces. If we strive to value psychological safety, we must reward dissent. Here are 3 ways to start.
Love at first sight
“Love at first sight” to me is the experience of being seen. The challenge is that it is very difficult to allow ourselves to be truly seen. So, are we being “seen” for fake versions of ourselves? If so, is it still love at first sight?
Do you know why you were hired?
Sometimes we can feel like we need to prove we've earned a job, that we are worthy of it - even when we've clearly just won it. It's almost like being afraid to lose the job even before it's begun, which is ridiculous. Why do we feel this way? My first thought is: We don't know why we got hired.
Short vs. long term thinking
Short-term thinking can fall into 3 kinds: gaining validation, instant gratification, and fear of missing out. Here are ways we may reframe them to steer us toward long term thinking.
How I found meaning
I share my 10-year struggle to find meaning - trying to answer "Why do I do what I do?" Here are the five questions that have helped me dig deeper.